Why Is Male BondingSo Important?

Many boys and men struggle with creating genuine and warm friendships, though the positive effects of male bonding in a man’s life are many*:- Greater success in men’s personal and professional lives.- Less likelihood of social isolation (which can lead to stress related illnesses, isolation, addiction, suicide, divorce and violence).- Increased resources and resiliency in times of crisis.- Stronger connection with family, spouse, kids, peers and themselves.- Greater peace of mind and sense of purpose. Psychologist Niobe Way says that "when adolescent boys stop sharing their intimate feelings with their peers, we see an alarming increase in their rates of depression and suicide.

Wives who cite their husband´s ´emotional unavailability´ as the primary cause of divorce initiate two out of every three divorces today."  She goes on to say that the absence of close friendships also can have negative effects on a man´s physical health and lower his bodily resistance to illness.** After studying topics about masculinity and male bonding, we can without a doubt state that deep and genuine male friendships are vital for men. It is not about how many friends you have, though - it has much more to do about the depth and quality of the relationship itself. A wise man once said: “Show me your friends, and I´ll show you your future”.

And if you think about it, it makes much sense. We all get affected by the people we surround ourselves with. By allowing people to be close to us, we let them bring out new sides of us that we might never thought existed. Those sides can either be good or not so good, which is why we ought to choose our friends carefully. Some men might not see the purpose of having deep friendships in their lives. Friendships don´t really have a value to them. And if that is you, that´s OK. But we would like to graciously ask you this question: Maybe the reason to why many men don´t value deep friendships, is because few experience it?***

*Sources: Deep Secrets (Naomi Way), When Boys Become Boys (Judy Y Chu), Remaking Manhood (Mark Greene). **Garfield, Robert. "Men In Transition." Breaking the Male Code: Unlocking the Power of Friendship: Overcoming Male Isolation for a Longer, Happier Life. New York: Avery, an Imprint of Penguin Random House, 2016. N. pag. Print.***Lewis, C. S. "Friendship." The Four Loves. London: William Collins, 2012. N. pag. Print.

Why Is Male BondingSo Important?

Many boys and men struggle with creating genuine and warm friendships, though the positive effects of male bonding in a man’s life are many*:- Greater success in men’s personal and professional lives.- Less likelihood of social isolation (which can lead to stress related illnesses, isolation, addiction, suicide, divorce and violence).- Increased resources and resiliency in times of crisis.- Stronger connection with family, spouse, kids, peers and themselves.- Greater peace of mind and sense of purpose. Psychologist Niobe Way says that "when adolescent boys stop sharing their intimate feelings with their peers, we see an alarming increase in their rates of depression and suicide. Wives who cite their husband´s ´emotional unavailability´ as the primary cause of divorce initiate two out of every three divorces today."  She goes on to say that the absence of close friendships also can have negative effects on a man´s physical health and lower his bodily resistance to illness.** After studying topics about masculinity and male bonding, we can without a doubt state that deep and genuine male friendships are vital for men. It is not about how many friends you have, though - it has much more to do about the depth and quality of the relationship itself. A wise man once said: “Show me your friends, and I´ll show you your future”. And if you think about it, it makes much sense. We all get affected by the people we surround ourselves with. By allowing people to be close to us, we let them bring out new sides of us that we might never thought existed. Those sides can either be good or not so good, which is why we ought to choose our friends carefully. Some men might not see the purpose of having deep friendships in their lives. Friendships don´t really have a value to them. And if that is you, that´s OK. But we would like to graciously ask you this question: Maybe the reason to why many men don´t value deep friendships, is because few experience it?***

*Sources: Deep Secrets (Naomi Way), When Boys Become Boys (Judy Y Chu), Remaking Manhood (Mark Greene). **Garfield, Robert. "Men In Transition." Breaking the Male Code: Unlocking the Power of Friendship: Overcoming Male Isolation for a Longer, Happier Life. New York: Avery, an Imprint of Penguin Random House, 2016. N. pag. Print.***Lewis, C. S. "Friendship." The Four Loves. London: William Collins, 2012. N. pag. Print.